An unhealthy relationship can leave you feeling uncomfortable, bitter, sad and afraid. It’s heartbreaking to hear stories or know someone that's involved in a bad situation with their partner especially when they don't realize or accept the fact that the relationship is at a dead end. On the outside looking in we think they should leave but maybe they don't have the courage or emotional strength to break free. Often times people stay in this type of environment with hopes that things will change or that they can make their partner better. Sometimes they stay due to fear of the repercussions that come with leaving. Unfortunately, it gradually gets worse over time until someone walks away or gets hurt.
Most people don't recognize they are in an unhealthy relationship. Everyone around the couple notices the negative effects but them because they are in denial. They will make excuses for their mate or become defensive when questioned about their relationship. Friends and family will notice a decline in confidence, self-esteem, emotional and physical health. The sad part about it is most will try to hide things from loved ones or put up a façade to prove everyone wrong. It takes a person to really hit a low point before they realize the damaging effects of the relationship.
Here's a few warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. Hopefully, this will help many women and men to get out of a situation before it ends in murder suicide or anything else damaging to an individual.
Controlling Behavior - Beware of someone that falls deeply in love with you after a couple dates and insists on being with you 24/7. Don't confuse jealousy with love. Cut it off immediately.
Isolating Behavior - They don't want you hanging out with your family or friends. They expect to be involved in what you are doing at all times. If you’re asked to cut off all social ties then this is a sign that he/she is possessive. Let it go!
Unpredictable Behavior – Some examples are mood swings, easily angered or agitated over simple things. Unexpected visits or mysterious surprises are also suspicious.
Abusive Behavior - They don't have respect for you or your feelings. They embarrass you in public, around family and friends. Abuse can be verbal, physical, and/or mental.
Selfish Behavior - They are self-centered and only doing things that are beneficial to them. They will ignore your feelings and make all decisions whether you agree or not.
Being in an unhealthy relationship can be very dangerous on so many levels. It is not always about abuse; if you love, support, nurture and cater to someone with all your heart but it's not reciprocated and you begin to question your value and what can you do better even when you're not the issue, this is a sign to hang it up. You can't change a hateful heart. You can create the most peaceful loving atmosphere for someone but they still can remain unhappy. Sometimes it’s best to leave things behind and start fresh.
Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals." 1 Corinthians 15:23
Are you in an unhealthy relationship? Do you see any of these signs in your romance? Do not ignore it, do something about it.